Feeling lonely in a relationship can be particularly difficult, especially when you still love the person you're with. As a therapist, I see how deeply painful this kind of loneliness can be. It can feel like a slow journey through sadness and grief, until eventually there can be a sense of numbness. Emotional neglect can be quiet. It can be a lack of affection, intimacy, interest or comfort. Feeling as though your partner doesn’t really see you anymore. Missing the warmth yo

Why do some people seem able to make a decision and just go for it, while others can feel completely stuck? They decide they want a different job and apply for one. They book the trip, join the gym, end the relationship, start dating again, say no to something they don’t want to do or finally have the conversation they’ve been avoiding. For other people, it can feel much harder. Feeling stuck and overthinking can leave you questioning what to do next. Frustration and self cr

It's a question I've found myself reflecting on recently. The pressure to keep going, to get things right, to be productive, to meet expectations and not let people down can quietly become part of everyday life. Many of us move through the world carrying an internal voice that is far less forgiving than we would ever be with someone we care about. This kind of self-criticism can become normalised. We notice our mistakes before our successes. We focus on what still needs doing

People pleasing can leave us feeling exhausted, frustrated and disconnected from ourselves. This blog explores where these patterns come from and how therapy can help

Supporting couples with communication and intimacy issues. This post shows how couples therapy can help.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the word sorry, especially given recent events. It’s such a small word. One we learn early in life. As children, we’re taught to say sorry when we’ve hurt someone. We learn that it helps repair something. The apology is accepted, and something settles. The relationship feels safe again. But as adults, sorry can become much harder to find. Sometimes it’s replaced with defensiveness. Sometimes with silence. Sometimes with words that minimise the h

Sometimes life runs away with us. Wouldn't it be good if we just remembered to pause? Can we nurture ourselves to be in the moment? Does...

Assumptions about another, what do we mean by this? I've been thinking about this a lot during this past week. Particularly in relation...